Why are we so afraid to let others in? What are we actually holding on to?
Mary J. Blige once recorded a song called, Baggage. Let me ask you this. Have you ever taken time out to actually listen to the lyrics of the song?
If you never heard the song before, feel free to take a listen here:
Let's be honest with ourselves here. This song holds a lot of truth to it.
"I got this baggage with me, don't want to make you pay for what somebody else has done to me, I don't know what to do. With all this baggage in me, every time I hurt your feelings it's someone's done to me, I don't mean to hurt. Heartache and pain, I just can't do it again so I look for the worst and brace myself for the hurt." -Mary J. Blige
A lot of us pass on dating opportunities because we're so busy comparing our old relationships to what is trying to be formed. We often think just because a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife played us in the past, everyone after them will do the same.
A lot of us pass on dating opportunities because we're so busy comparing our old relationships to what is trying to be formed. We often think just because a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife played us in the past, everyone after them will do the same.
Well, guess what?
THAT'S NOT TRUE!
Some people just aren't for us and there's no way around it.
I was on a women's prayer call about a day or so ago and something was said that stuck with me because it made complete sense.
"Some people harden their hearts against us for our protection. Though we may not understand it's for our own good."
WHATTTTTT?
That almost blew me away because, it's so true.
Sometimes were so busy trying to make the person that we're dating or interested in live in the same space as us that we fail to realize that we're not even fit for each other. Then on the other hand we have others that we're compatible with but things start to fade over a period of time.
DON'T BE THE ONE TO MISS OUT ON A GOOD OPPORTUNITY BECAUSE YOU'RE STUCK ON THE PAST.
People change.
People drift apart.
Some people will hurt us intentionally and unintentionally. However, we can't dwell on the past.
IT'S APART OF LIFE!
It's a lot of great like minded individuals out here really interested in courting you and treating you exactly how you deserve to be treated but you have to allow them to do it. You can't constantly compare every situation to your ex and what he/she has done to you in the past.
So I tell you what!
Starting today, let's let go of the past. Let's let go of the pain from previous relationships so we can allow ourselves to be open to wonderful opportunities with such great people. Great things are already aligned for each and every one of us, we just have to be receptive!
